a lot of you had met my previous girlfriend, ashley ( http://www.jdmclub.com/shit/SPRING%2...2003%20050.jpg ). ashley and I were boyfriend/girlfriend for about 10 months. Shes that one girl that i could see myself with for my entire life. She said (and I believe) that i was her 1st real love, i mean, she lost her virginity to me for christ sakes. We never fought about a damn thing, or if we did, it was just something stupid like "what do you want to do night" type of shit. We loved being around each other. She actually knows a decent amount of shit about cars, so we could go to shows and races together and relate which in my mind, is hard to find. So then she falls out of love with me and wants to take time apart, this being about 1-2 weeks before she left UCF to go home to miami for the summer. Then you know that there is always that one other guy. That one guy that no matter how she made it completely clear that she had a boyfriend, always tried to get with her. So what does he do when we break up, hes trying to be there to be the 'shoulder to cry on' aka the rebounder. So i go down to visit her since we decided to just date when she was down there, that she still cared for me, etc. so i see her getting these messages from him like "i miss you" blah blah. So im like what the fuck? She says they are only friends and will never be more then that. So i asked her if she would promise that to me (the ONLY promise i EVER asked her to keep) and she said yes in tone that expresses "obviously". So whatever, i leave it at that. The day I leave i find out that shes going to go to orlando to hang out with friends, and guess whos suppose to be there. Granted she does have more friends now in orlando then in miami since most of her miami highschool friends moved away for college. so once again, she tells me shes staying at one of her girlfriends places when she goes up there. So the next week she goes up there, and she calls me from her girl friends house that night letting me know she got in, and i could hear them in the background, so all is well. I then call her the next day and ask her what shes up to, and she tells me that shes coming home from the mall, but she had just signed offline about 10 minutes prior to that and the closest mall is a 15 minute drive, so i was like, hmm. Anyway, jokingly i said "suprised you havent seen justin yet (justin being the other guy in this story)" she replies with "hes not coming down" (he lives in middleburg, by jacksonville, 2.5 hrs N of orlando) so I was like, ok. She told me to call her back in a few hours. Few hours later i call her back, she doesnt answer. She always answers her phone regardless of where and when, so im getting a little worried. I kept calling and finally she picks up and says "im busy ill call you back later" and i dont hear from her from the rest of the day, right there i knew something was up. FINALLY that night she answers me in a text message 'why are you calling me so much" so i told her i was concerned bc its not like you to not pick up your phone. So i took a shot in the dark and messaged her back with "your in middleburg arent you" and she replies back with "yes im with justin, get over it". At that point in time i had never been so pissed. so FINALLY after 2 days of her being there she calls me (when i was heading to johns house that night and i had stopped off to walmart to get a plunger bc walter had shitted up the toilet or something). So im standing outside of walmart asking her why the fuck she drove a total of 6.5 hrs to go see just a friend. I said to her, if something went on between the 2 of you that was more then friends, i wont ever talk to you again in my life. At that point she starts to sob. So i go down the list from the worst with did you have sex with him, no, did you all have oral sex, no, did you make out with eachother....... yes. So i finish yelling and hang up the phone. I then call that motherfuckers cell phone, he picks up "is this justin", yes "why the fuck did you pull that shit on my girl?" *click*. I then call back, he does pick up, so i call one last time and it goes to voice mail in which i say "if you are any bit of a man, you will fucking call me back and explain yourself RIGHT NOW and if your going to be a little bitch and not, just expect a visit from me next semester. Of course his little bitch ass doesnt call back. So after punching the side of my 240 about 5 times and splitting my knuckles open, i went to johns, got crunked up and passed out. So about 2-3 weeks later she messages me on my phone "just seeing how you were doing". So then she ended up calling and we talked, she cried a little bit saying she was sorry, but didnt regret what she did with him. This is when i was down in ft lauderdale visiting some of my friends, so i was like, we can have lunch the day i leave if you want, she agrees. So we have lunch, it was kinda wierd at 1st but it picked back up some and we were cool with each other. so we started talking again and things were going alright, then about a 3-4 weeks later ( this last weekend, 3-4 days ago) i decided to go down to import expressions car show in miami, being that i had press passses per usual. So i asked her if she wanted to hang out for a few days. So we did, we ended up hanging out sat afternoon thru tuesday morning. Yea we had sex and what not, since im the only person she had it with and she was anal about that kinda thing since she had waited 19 years to loose it in the 1st place. So while i was there, this fucking kid kept calling and calling. i didnt want to make a deal about it when i was with her, so today i questioned her about when she went up there, and of course she got pissed. After some interrogating i found out that it ended up where this guy went down on her and she went down on this guy. i have never been so heart broken as i am right now. It was even a bigger stab in the heart then her going up there in the 1st place. So as of this point in time, i told her i dont want to speak with her ever again, the one that was perfect for me, decieved me.

 

That really sucks mark, im really sorry to hear that man, i hate shit like that, i can kind of relate, there was a loser 28 year old dude that worked at my girls old work that kept trying to get with her and i hated that mother fucker, we ended up breaking up for like 2 weeks, which she spent hanging out with him a few times and they made out a few times and what not, which totally broke my heart, it still hurts when i think about it....but the guy was a total dick and she realized that she was in love with me by hangign out with this dude for 2 weeks, so im over it and now were moving into our apt together a week from tomorrow.

moral of the story:

theres always going to be someone out there that wants what you have...and if some people are meant to be together...they'll be together.

 

Mark i feel you.....but more......my first serious true girlfriend broke up with me after about 7 months of being together.....like you, we never faught about anything but where to go eat or what movie to see.....i felt her growing further and further away from me at the end of the relationship she had alot of guy friends who always wanted to get with her. And ofcourse this upset me, i let her know, blah blah blah. we ended up breaking up shortly after. I got severely depressed and dropped out of school, she was a virgin and i was so ready to have sex with her and she was too, but wanted to wait a bit longer (church girl) . there was this kid at my old work who worked with both her and i, and he happened to get her on the rebound (without my knowledge) ....and he got her drunk as fuck and took her virginity the first time they hung out......i naturally didnt talk to her for about a year after we broke up, just hi and bye. Finally one night we went out to the beach at night, walked in the sand and talked.....she told me what happened (i never even knew) and my heart about fell in my stomach......i wanted to throw up, it was such a kick in the balls. And unlike you Mark i didnt have anyone to call up and let my frustrations out on......i just kept it inside.

and my most recent ex and i broke up in about the same situation......i am waiting for her to tell me she lost her virginity to some asshole who got her drunk at college.

if you need to talk im here for you bro

 

Women are like parking spots. All the good ones are taken and the rest are handicapped.

 

or reserved for valet for all the big ballers

 

kyle: its nice it worked out in the end for you. no doubt i would go back with her if she REALLY wanted to work things out

tom: if i were you i would have drove over and beat the fuck out of that guy, im already planning a trip to visit this guy once he comes back to orlando, even though i do know his home address now

jomar: she is a good girl, shes fucking perfect, but shes 19, so shes still got the 'im young and need to live my life' bullshit in her. i just wish i could have met her in a few years, when she was ready to stop acting like that, which is her only downfall

 

Yeah I know, I met her a few times. Just trying to provide some humor.

 

shit i have to go for a drive after reading this depressing shit.......fuck

 

Have to say, parts of your story really hit close to home and even produced that sinking stomach feeling from the shit Jenny and I went through a long time ago. It has taken us about 2-3 years of on-off dating to finally get over all the shit we put each other through.

The only thing I can tell you is give it plenty of time before you attempt anything with her again. The overused saying "time heals all wounds" is pretty accurate, but only if you have genuine feelings for her and she for you. Good luck.