Love vs. Career
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Oooh oooh, save for 4-5 years and have kids so that me and teh wife won't have to (we've decided we don't ever want any anyway EVAR!). At least I am happy that someone in our family wants to be a father, I sure as hell don't want to be.
Disclaimer for those who have kids: kids are great and may be the center of your life, but I am glad that they are yours and not mine. Rent-A-Kid program all the way for me.
Disclaimer for those who have kids: kids are great and may be the center of your life, but I am glad that they are yours and not mine. Rent-A-Kid program all the way for me.
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Kids aren't on my list of things to own in the future. If it were up to me, there would be no little Alan's running around.
But she wants kids, so I figure I'll compromise sometime in the future. You have to have someone besides the hot asian maid to mow the lawn and take out the trash.
But she wants kids, so I figure I'll compromise sometime in the future. You have to have someone besides the hot asian maid to mow the lawn and take out the trash.
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Re: Love vs. Career
Originally posted by phatstang1
Then came the question..."Do I come before your job/career?".
Quite frankly, I didn't have an answer for her. Career pays the bills and opens up the opportunity for greater things in life
Then came the question..."Do I come before your job/career?".
Quite frankly, I didn't have an answer for her. Career pays the bills and opens up the opportunity for greater things in life
). Your career will allow you to pay ur bills, have a roof over ur heads, take nice trips together or do whatever you guys want in life. Without focusing on a good career/job how does she expect you guys to have a decent life together?
Just my $0.02
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I've had similar conversations in the past.. and in my current relationship and have generally taken the same approach.
She is themost important person in my life, but without my career.. i cant provide for her in the ways i am supposed to. My situation is also a little different in that without my carreer (for the moment anyhow) I have to return to australia, so it is very important that I do well at it.
I'm very lucky to be with someone right now who understands all of this and is in total agreement that for the time being my career is very important to us both, its what were going to be living off in the not too distant future when we have kids... unless we are one of those unfortunate "TR people" who are rushing things and will end in divorce.. lol
I think Alan you eed to help her distinguish between important PEOPLE and important THINGS .. and ask yourself whether you would give up your career for her if you REALLY had to.. would you follow her some where else if the situation warranted it ?.. woudl she follow you ?.. it all comes down to economics i guess..
She is themost important person in my life, but without my career.. i cant provide for her in the ways i am supposed to. My situation is also a little different in that without my carreer (for the moment anyhow) I have to return to australia, so it is very important that I do well at it.
I'm very lucky to be with someone right now who understands all of this and is in total agreement that for the time being my career is very important to us both, its what were going to be living off in the not too distant future when we have kids... unless we are one of those unfortunate "TR people" who are rushing things and will end in divorce.. lol
I think Alan you eed to help her distinguish between important PEOPLE and important THINGS .. and ask yourself whether you would give up your career for her if you REALLY had to.. would you follow her some where else if the situation warranted it ?.. woudl she follow you ?.. it all comes down to economics i guess..
