An interesting topic came about while having dinner with Jenny this evening:

We have been tossing around the idea of an engagement ring, and I told her that I needed to live with her first...blah blah blah blah. Then came the question..."Do I come before your job/career?".

Quite frankly, I didn't have an answer for her. We love each other very much, and she puts me before practically everything in her life. I, however, cannot say the same. For me, career comes first and everthing else follows. At most, I would say Jenny and my career are equal. Career pays the bills and opens up the opportunity for greater things in life in the future...then again, so does my relationship.

So now she is all upset and shocked that she doesn't come first in my life. I'm really at a loss for words. For the life of me, I cannot explain my reasoning for how I feel. I want a great career, and I also want to continue to better things with Jenny. She can't understand that my focus on my career is of uber importance to me. I'm willing to sacrifice practically everything for my career, but I have a hard time doing the same thing for a relationship.

Anyone here deal with a similar situation?