unfortanately you can not reflash the stock ecu. ultimately tuning really wont increase the power by much on a n/a car. the only tuning tool i can think of is a apex AFC, but the amount of hp increase would not be worth expense.
your car should run fine on the parts and stock ecu.
changing the thermostat in the car will not hurt it and could help out.
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