well, i sent some time with a FSM and i learned some things, but nothing that pointed out the exact problem. I did learn that the tranny will shift without the control unit. I mean, you can push it into 1st and then into 2nd. D doesn't do anything but that was expected. So the tranny itself is good.
Its got to be a sensor somewhere..... or the control unit itself.....

anybody got one laying around that I could borrow for a day or two?