To get our respect he has to give some first and since that ain't happening he's fubar'd.

 

Just to interject a little to what Joker's referring to.

My "male biological sperm donor" - as I called him through the majority of my younger years, bailed at 2 mos. Left us high and dry, broke as a joke. Mom remarried and the guy put a gun in my face, threatened to kill me, threatened to kill my mother, amongst other things.

When I finally met my father again for the first time, after more than 15 years. I shook his hand, he grabbed me, pulled me into his chest, said, "you don't shake your old man's hand, give me a hug, it's been a hundred years." So I gave him a hug, and the first thing he said to me was, "Sorry it's been so long."

That's all I needed. No need to punch him, give him a black eye, or curse him, or question him, or anything. The fact of the matter is, it wasn't HIS fault my life was different - or worse - shit happens. It was my fate, my destiny, and hopefully the rest of my life will now include him written into the rest of the pages.

I guess what I'm saying is - life is what you make of it, situations are what you make of them, you will only be as good as your outlook or perspective on those situations. Respect for your elders goes a long way.

 

i haven't seen him disrespect anyone in any of these forums...

wen i met him he was very respectful, well spoken and manered.

 

^^Dr.J-Hill jfwy mang. life is deff all about fate, u can make all the plans in the world for ur life, but it just dont care... roll with the punches

 

Roll with the punches is right....If a person can't adapt, they are screwed and destined for a hard life. But...whatever.

 

thanks

and i dont hate my father we're pretty good friends now and i still call him dad but eh calling himby his name was a little harsh when i saw how bad it made him feel.


and as far as giving respect to you guy's, im always looking forward to meeting all of you. but just becuz i wont drop and give you 20 dose not mean i dont have respect for the "elders".

but enough thread jacking, useing something to make your kid respect you is a little weak, and if he does keep calling you sir after he get's what he's aiming for then good for him. but i wouldnt try and force it on him. for it should come on its own.

 

It's mainly fun for me.....I'm not just trying to be "mean" by any means. But....He started doing this when he asked for 100 churro's. So I said "well, if you can do that for a week, then you can have 100 churro's. I never thought he would take me up on it....Honestly, I never thought he would. I also never thought he would keep it up this long. I thought he would give it up after the first night and most certainly after the 2nd day. But nope...He's still going on it.

 

well maybe there is a lesson learned for him. in order to get anything in this world you have to give something back in return of either equal or greater value.