I post this in here only because I actually respect your opinions and words of advice. I appologize if I am somewhat annoying since my posts in here seem to be a lot of whining and bitching about things.

As some of you know from previous posts, Jenny and I called it quits approximately one month ago. Since then, I have been trying to cut all communications off 100%. I feel the only way I can get over the entire relationship and get on with my life is to not see her for a VERY long time. She on the other hand wishes to immidately move into a friendship. She trusts me, loves me, respects my opinions, and regards me as one of the only people she knows that she can actually rely upon.

I've been nice and tried to find a middle ground where we would speak with each other or meet each other once a week. I can't do that. I've told her, and she dismisses it as me trying to get "my way" again. To be quite honest, the only reason I don't want to be a friend to her just yet is because it would kill me to see her with anyone else when that time comes. Then I would turn into a jealous asshole and it would end bitterly anyways...so may as well cut clean now, then try to salvage some sort of friendship in the future.

Adding to this, everytime I talk to her, in the back of my mind the thought of "maybe we can work things out" emerges. Even though my better judgement knows its done, this damn thought sneaks up on me.

So is it time for me to be an asshole so she will get the point? Honestly I don't want to hurt her because I do love her on some level, but damn, at some point in my life I need to get over this so I can at least be somewhat happy.


Eh...so this ends my whiney "emo" saga for the day. I appreciate any words of advice, as I really haven't been in this predicament previously.

 

Being friends more than likely won't work out. I can speak from personal experience. Last time I tried that, the person just kept me around as a "friend" to try to get some ass from me. Thankfully I didn't fall for their crap, haven't seen them for over a year, and it's been the best year of my life.

No contact/communication = better for you, and you are the only person you need to worry about in this situation.

 

you dont have to be an asshole necessarily, just be strong...

 

havent talked to my ex besides passing "hey" for about a year now... not like I have anythignt ot alk to her about, erased her phone number erased her AIM everyhitng that had to do with her for contact is gone

 

be an asshole, it works great....

dont return calls, set up outings and dont show, dont say you're sorry for not showing up...

she'll get the point soon enough.

 

You must break all communication to get over it or you will always have that "maybe we can work it out" mentality. She is keeping you on the back burner , it's a saftey comfort that if she doesn't find someone she has you. Don't be that guy , you will end up hurt! Been on both sides on this topic and your side sucks! Hope I wasn't to abrasive but hate to see some one in this situation!

 

Pretty much what everyone else said, and to add to it, the quickest way to forget her is to get with another gal, even if just a friend, it will take your mind off her.

 

Thanks for the advice so far. It is kind of difficult for me to really "let go" of the idea that I don't have to compromise with her anymore. After 5-years of compromise, it is just a strange feeling.

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