A willingness to talk about a conflict with a counselor is a step in the right direction.
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I would try to avoid making any accusations, and let the counselor
assign blame, if assigning blame must be done. It's better that the
counselors words be the words to disagree with, instead of disagreeing
with each other.
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I would start with things that both of you agree on
and list what you both agree on.
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After talking about things you both agree on, write down a
separate list of items that the two of you disagree on.
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Always let the counselor make decisions, and your role is
to discuss what he wants to explore.
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Originally Posted by
pockbatch
We had a major fight again about the same issue. It was so bad that we ended up deciding that we need couples counseling. We know that we love one another and this tragedy should not affect us but it's really killing the gears of our relationship. We still want to be together so we are going to work things out through
counseling. I hope it's not too late for us.