i totally understand what you mean Tony.. i was offered Navigator/Weopons officer on F111s when i applied for the airforce in australia.. i declined because if i cant fly it..i aint interested... regardless of if you can cross over later...
I hope you do still keep up the flying in civvie aircraft..i never did and sort of regret it now...
good luck with everything Tony..
i'd head for something that has civilian street appeal.. ie something than you will be able to do outside..
that or try to get into something to do with intel so that you can go CIA or FBI one day