Problem solved. He contacted me and has shipped the ECU insured and with tracking. I just got back from a Christmas trip so i haven't been able to update this thread.

His good friend contacted me and helped set things straight. I haven't been home to see if if it came in the mail yet.

stuff happens, phones get lost or broken, PCs and laptops crash, and work demands alot of time, but for future reference 7 days is too long to not contact people who send payments for items.