the thought of cheating has never even crossed my mind with my current, and first official girlfriend ive ever had (so lame i am). the thought of just thinking about cheating on someone annoys me, i am glad i am the type of person who could never bring myself about to do such a thing, i'd die from guilt poisoning.
and leslie is right, these people dont change. ive seen a select few realize what they lost was better than they deserved in the first place, and realized the stupidity of their actions --- and DID change. but most dont.
matt, i dont know the whole story, nor do i really want to impose upon your personal business, but i have the gist of it i guess. please know if you need anything at all from me, even just to hang out, or talk or whatever, im here for ya bro. as the song says 'time is the healer' and keeping yourself busy and happy will help you recover faster.