Sorry bro havent really been paying attention to this forum too much.
The extension rod is the link with the screw in bolt the other is the shift rod itself. Ya youll have to break off that clamp. Inside of it is a pin. Just buy a new pin and clamp at Honda. I usually buy all my stuff at Lindell they treat me good. Hope Im not too late with the info. If you ever need to get a hold of me just email me ( god@tampabay.rr.com/ultima ). Have fun.