I going to agree with others' here. Something is def. not right; hopefully it's your driving since that can be fixed for free. Let us know how the ECU reset works out and if that seemed to help. Also, if you're up for the drive, we could do a pull. I'm stage 2 right now, but you should still pull away from me...especially in the higher gears.
Either way, Matt, hopefully this gets resolved. At the power level you're making (unless the SWP sti limited your friend has is a factory freak in the extreme sense

), any STI stage 2 and less should be easy to take.