Pat unfortunately in this F**ked up state, with the amount of money you make if she takes you back she will get more. The support is primarily based on your income,hers doesnt make much of a difference at all. I am in a similar situation and have always paid since day one (even though the itch cheated on me). I am always getting told "I will take you back for more". I have just gotten to the point where I say "f**k you,take me back" I am not going to live my life in fear of her stupid ass. Just another piece of info of how bad this state drops the ball on this type of thing. My ex has since had a baby with a guy who just got out of state prison and has a rap sheet three pages long. I contacted my atty. to see if I could get my kids in order to keep this upstanding citizen away from them and I was told it will never happen. I was told she pretty much has to be smoking crack with them in the room, for anything to happen. This is definately a reactive state not a proactive one. They always wait for something to happen before they say "maybe we should have done something about that." Its very sad.