Originally Posted by
DrDirt
For all you who didn't have a good relationship with your father, I would say don't give up the ship. A LOT of mellowing and regret takes place with age with your parents. They realize what they missed out on earlier in your lives but are afraid it is too late. It's never too late. You might try to put your own hurt and bitterness behind you and wipe the slate clean and initiate a new beginning. It won't work in all cases, unfortunately, but it is worth the effort. If you can manage to start over, life will be immeasurably better for both of you. Give it a shot.
I attempted this last year... My biological father's birthday was upon us and I sent him a card w/a letter and a picture of my (now) fiance and I. I told him that she was the woman I planned to marry and start a family with, and that this was his opportunity to become a part of that 'family' even though he missed out on being a part of my family for the past 25 years.
My half sister found me on AOL w/the info I provided them to get in touch w/me. She said the card is in his office, the picture on their fridge.
Still no call, email, or attempt at reconciliation on his behalf.
