yes you need all 3.
usually certain wheels have certain patterns. like momo = sparco, but nardi = personal = nismo patterns. most quick releases are universal though. so pick up an s13 momo hub, either a megan, nrg, or circuit sports quick release, and the wheel of your choice. just make sure the quick release is universal patterns. i know the circuit sports is. and i think megan too.
you want full kill switch or just like a "security" one? i usually cut the fuel pump wire coming from the fuel pump relay and wire in a switch. make sure its a nice switch and not a shitty one that heats up and goes bad. and hiding the switch somewhere is nice as a security deterrant. someone could start the car up and try to steal it but with the switch off, they'll "run out of gas" within 50 feet. installing 2 of them works best. this way, one is like under-dash or in the armrest console or something, so its the one u always hit. the other switch you can put in the trunk, or under the carpet flap near the rear seat or something, and use that for like vacations, or long periods of time. plus if a thief has time to find the 1st switch and it still doesnt work, they'll usually move on. (unless they bring the tow truck lol)