well, i am really unsure how but it seems to have fixed itself. the coolant isnt mysteriously disappearing and the car is no longer overheating. i was about to change the thermostat and checked the fluid, it had not gone down. both hoses get hot and fan seems to come on now. i think i had hella air in the lines and it was making the ecu think it was hotter (air heats up faster than liquid obviously) and thus pushing more fluids (also my oil seemed a bit low so maybe it was pushing more fluid)to compensate. Whatever it is, I am no longer losing fluid and the overheating problem seems solved. Does my theory sound plausible? Let me know. Thanks