in most cases the relay is located right under the dash on the far left side if your sitting in the car, sometimes things can be in the way, get the flash light, that 12v thing is the main relay, i dont know exaclty where it would be in the car your looking for, but look for this thing...something else could be in the way..some are harder to get to than others

the DA one is located WAY up in there, on the far left side under the fash near all the switches and what not on left side of stearing.