Maybe i'm not giving him enough credit but i say if you're going to do it, you might as well do it right. Sending him the EM way, he won't have to pay to get the car tuned or risk blowing his shit up cause he just wants to up it alittle bit when he's got decent competition/trying to impress. He also mentioned he eventially wants to go with an upgraded turbo and all that biz didn't he, so he's gonna have to take a hit when selling the BC and S-AFC then regardless.
I say get the AccessECU stage 1 and a k&n. Then when you get some dough, buy the up-pipe, than the turboback, than some IC hoses or new TMIC and then buy the accessport for $200 and switch the maps.