Im sorry if this comes out as bitching or ranting...Im not trying to make people feel sorry for me. I just need to get this out because I could use some help and support on this issue.

After 2.5 years Jenny and I both decided to separate. We gave too much of ourselves to the relationship and ultimately forgot who we were as individuals. Both of us pushed each others buttons and took each other for granted. I turned into an asshole and she was a bitch at times. We still love each other and want time to ourselves to figure things out before we can attempt another go at the relationship. Fortunately this is a friendly breakup thus far and Im going to try hard to keep it from going hostile. We have always been the best of friends something which I know is close to impossible to keep after a relationship.

Im basically feeling destroyed about now. In the past Ive always been able to brush it off and be back on my feet in a matter of days. It has been a week and Im still feeling the heartache.

After I graduate May 02 I had planned to use the left over money in my college savings account to buy an engagement ring and ask her to marry me. We both thought wed be with each other till the end of time. Maybe we still will maybe we just need time to figure out who we are as individuals so we can love each other unconditionally and respectfully.


Disclaimer: Please no Jenny bashing. I know the majority of you who have met her hate her for some reason.

 

I didnt know her and I dont really know you either but I hope things work out for the best for both of you... Having done a lot of thinking/soul searching/whatever myself lately I know how you feel... It sounds like you are both trying to figure out what you really want and what makes you happy... The trick is to not look so hard that you forget to enjoy the road life leads you on (or if you are one of those really proactive guys the road you choose to lead your life on)...

I keep wanting to put some wise proverbial knowledge in right about here but Im not going to...

Clint

 

alan man.. been there. done that. it sucks now but later its liberating.... just long enough untill you happen to run into someone else without even expecting it. just deal with your emotions as you normally due.. no need to be all happy yet.. feel things out and follow your mind.. not your heart. its hard i know.. but trust me.. knowledge IS power.

 

alan i will give you a big hug and make you forget all about her.

 

Stop flirting Justin...you know I only want to be friends.

 

this will cheer you up alan its a pic of adam swiming in his new pool

 

sorry to hear that alan Ill just post what a friend of mine told me in an email once. The girl who told me this is someone I am extremely close with and we grew up together in New York...she still lives there hence the email communications:

I hate to see you so upset- especially over a
girl. I think time heals all wounds and if she didnt
work out Im sure another girl will come around that
will blow her out of the water. Once you are blinded
by love its hard to realize that there are other
people that you could care equally for. Trust me on
this!

sorry to hear about what happened though