The Drama Cycle ?

[Scott]

After being online now for six years I have noticed I have gone through a few cycles. The vast majority of my online activity has of course been here.

What I mean by this is in the first few years or so online I got along with everyone and was in a learning mode both for car stuff and internet concerns.

Then I had several years of getting mixed into a fair share of drama. A good part of it I guess was the blunt way I replied and dealt with some people then it got misinterpreted, but a lot of it was from others egging me on, I should have been the bigger man but we all know how that goes at times. Why I became a magnet for this is something I have mixed ideas about and is another long winded topic for another day.

Now over the last few years I have found myself staying further and further away from anything that could turn into drama. I have the occasional flare up or bad day that most of us have (some more than others ) but I am even having those type of days less and less. I do not know the exact reasoning behind this but I like it more than the drama days. Maybe it is simply just maturity. But I find myself going out of my way to be nice to just about everyone, even people I had stupid issues with in the past. I do not see me going back to the polarizing person I was.

Now am I completely off my rocker here and thinking to much or has anyone experienced this with themselves too ? If so where are you at right now ?

One thing is for sure, I still type way to much. I have to be loosing a lot of people riddled with A-D-D with posts like this.

[shinysideup]

I hear ya. Its difficult to come off as anything but a dick if you dont kiss peoples asses online. Most havent figured out when someones joking. Who would believe Im a fun-loving good-natured guy?

Keep up the good work Scott, I even think better of you the last two years.

Thick skin helps.

[TurboRanger91]

i feel the same way. i try to avoid most of the internet drama.

[BAMF]

Check out the first post I ever made on TR. Go ahead. Search for it.



Its been 4 years since I made that post....I was just a 16 year old punk back then.



I haven't changed at all Fuck all of you.

[Scott]

Originally Posted by shinysideup

I hear ya. Its difficult to come off as anything but a dick if you dont kiss peoples asses online. Most havent figured out when someones joking. Who would believe Im a fun-loving good-natured guy?

Keep up the good work Scott, I even think better of you the last two years.

Thick skin helps.

Thanks man.

You are right, many people have a hard time filtering sarcasm.

If I have anything it is thick skin. Between having to mod/admin stuff on TR/TF and then having to listen to it afterwords plus being a property manager there is not much that gets to me anymore.

Problem is people absorb unspoken words differently. You may reply to something and one person thinks you are a cocksucker while ten others get what you are trying to say and take no offense.

I do not think ass kissing is necessary either, I know I am not one for it and I do not see much of it around here. Now sack riding, oh damn we have some drivers and riders around here.

[864I'DCaprI]

Originally Posted by Scott

One thing is for sure, I still type way to much. I have to be loosing a lot of people riddled with A-D-D with posts like this.

I actually read the whole thing, only prob is when I got to that part /\/\ I forgot what the rest was about

[Stangonline]

Originally Posted by Scott

You are right, many people have a hard time filtering sarcasm.

fuck you!

[Ford DNA]

I went through the same thing on a dog message board. Used to just sit back and soak all the info up, get to know the other people, etc. Then the drama...let me tell you, it can get pretty fun! There are some reaaaaaaaal nutcases out there. But we'll end up with these megathreads with a few thousand posts and if you can't devote a couple hours a day to reading..forget it. Anyway, now I mostly read what I can, contribute what I can, and stay out of the drama. Most of the time.

[ODB]

Originally Posted by Stangonline

fuck you!

[GoodFella813]

damn a.d.d. i read the first line of every paragraph lmao

[Steve B]

gaggots

[Scott]

Originally Posted by Stangonline

fuck you!

Bahahahahah !

[Strokd85]

Originally Posted by Scott

Problem is people absorb unspoken words differently.

i find this is what gets me into trouble most.
without knowing someone, it's hard to sometimes get "how" they might be saying what they are typing.. (did that make sense).

whereas if the exact same thing were said in person it would be clear as a bell..

more of a lurker now with an occasional bleh...

happy landings...

[BAMF]

Originally Posted by Strokd85

i find this is what gets me into trouble most.
without knowing someone, it's hard to sometimes get "how" they might be saying what they are typing.. (did that make sense).

whereas if the exact same thing were said in person it would be clear as a bell..

more of a lurker now with an occasional bleh...

happy landings...

I agree - knowing who you're talking to really helps you put things into proportion. Me saying "I'll kick you in the nuts!" is a lot more comical than, say, Lumberjack saying it.

[Ford DNA]

^ Which is why I use smileys so much. Got to be a habit on the dog boards, since it's mostly women, and we can be quite bitchy and occasionally overly sensitive and reactive.